Relationships And Cheating In Our Modern Technological World
If you look at the statistics, it becomes pretty clear that there seems to be something fundamentally wrong with the institute of marriage. That’s not to say that marriage is a bad idea, but you have to wonder what the heck is going on when so many now seem doomed to divorce. The number of failed marriages is at an all-time high, and while the figures don’t always go into detail, you have to imagine that infidelity plays a major role in a good percentage of those break-ups. You need only look at popular culture to get an idea, with the headlines screaming about this or that celebrity couple breaking up because one of them was caught cheating. Celebrities are nothing like us, I hear you say, but they are still human, which means they are prone to the same human flaws and temptations that we all are.
Cheating on a partner is not something that is new, as people have been stepping out on their loved ones for as long as relationships have existed. What has changed, though, is how much easier it is to get involved with another person, thanks in large part to advances in technology. You can now meet people online using video chat, or text from your phone without anyone being any the wiser. People who have cheating down to a fine art will even invest in cheap mobile phones that they can pre-pay time on. That gives them a number that no-one else knows about except the person they are having the affair with.
It seems that cheating is big business, especially when you consider the tools that are available that allow you to do so, all at a cost of course. You can now download an app for your phone or tablet that is almost like a dating service for hook-ups. It will alert you when someone else who is a member is in the vicinity, and will even let you know if their interests match yours. I’m sure the creators of this little application will say they intended it to be a matchmaking tool, but put in the wrong hands, it can mean that philanderers don’t have to try that hard to find willing participants in their cheating game.
There are also a host of websites, most of which have a monthly fee, that are designed to put people together for one night stands and no questions asked flings. These types of sites are often marketed as being for people stuck in an unhappy marriage, but you have to ask whether or not it will get any better if you just start seeing other people on the side. Marriages that are in trouble can be saved, but that usually requires a level of work that most people simply don’t want to put in.
To say that technology is all on the side of the cheater is a little unfair, especially since those who think their partner may be cheating have some tools of their own that they can use. You can track down where someone is by their cell phone. Almost every modern mobile phone has GPS capabilities, which can almost make it like a tracking device if you know what you are doing. There is also software that can be installed on the computer that will record keystrokes. This allows you to see everything that was typed in while you weren’t looking. It will not only record a list of websites visited, but will also show exactly what was typed in chat conversations, forums, and anywhere else where a cheater might think to leave a message.
The sad fact is that people will always take the chance to cheat, regardless of how poorly the odds of being caught are stacked against them. It is human nature to be attracted to people other than the one you are with, but it is only the truly strong and committed that can ignore that and just be happy with who they are with.