How to Stay Cool In Front of Your Crush?

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We all know what it’s like when we are placed in front of someone that we have developed a crush on. It seems as though all the common sense and decorum that you possess under normal circumstances goes flying out the window. You end up sweating, blushing, and stammering like a marble mouthed fool, and it’s all because you are attracted to the person standing before you. It’s in those instances that the crush that you believed to be such a secret gets shown to everyone who is within earshot of you. It can be hard to do, but there are a few things to really focus on when your crush is right before your very eyes. If you can master these few simple techniques then you might just be able to keep your feelings a secret until you are good and ready to go public.

This photo is copyright (c) 2013 and made available under royalty free license These can be difficult to accomplish if you just stumble upon your crush by accident, but if you know you are about to see him or her, then prepare yourself for the meeting. The first thing that you have to focus on what you are going to say and how to say it. Instead of just blurting out the first thing that comes to mind or stammering for an answer, take a couple of seconds to compose yourself and speak clearly. Really focus on the person you are talking to and listen to what they are saying. It’s all too easy to get caught up inside your own thoughts and not pay attention. It’s far easier to answer in a clear, sensible manner when you hear everything that is being said.

One of the most common scenarios that sets the nerves jangling is when your crush decides to spark up a conversation with you. It’s amazing how quickly your mind can be filled with nothing but disbelief that this person is actually engaging in conversation with you. Again, take a second to compose yourself before answering and try to do so in a way that continues the conversation. That could be as simple as answering what you are asked and then continuing it with a question of your own. Doing so will not only keep the conversation alive, but will also give you a few extra seconds to breathe and formulate the way in which the talk should continue.

The way in which you behave during such encounters is also important and may go a long way towards establishing yourself in a good way in the eyes of your crush. Be sure to maintain eye contact during the conversation, but naturally so that it doesn’t come off as simply staring. Try to remain as natural as possible and be sure to avoid that forced laughter at every single thing they say. You are trying to see if they like you, not have them believe that you have gone off the deep end. You also want them to get to know the real you, so any sort of behavior that you wouldn’t engage in anywhere else is counter to that goal.

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Deep inside you feel that you are about to burst with excitement when you see your crush, but you have to force that back down and stop it from reaching the surface. If you want to become truly comfortable around your crush then get in the habit of starting up a conversation with them. That will give you plenty of time to plan what you are going to say, as well as allowing yourself to be cool, calm, and collected before you talk. These sorts of conversations are a great way to break the ice and get to know someone whilst also allowing them to see your real personality. Following those steps may even make you comfortable enough to ask your crush out on a date, confident that you might very well receive a yes in response.



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