5 Easy Steps To Overcome Social Anxiety

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Most of us don’t like to be put in unfamiliar situations, but for the most part we are all able to quickly adapt and settle in to even the most extreme social situation. For example, a new job usually means walking into a place where you are exposed to new experiences, as well as people that have already forged a bond with one another. That can be particularly nerve-wracking, but it usually only takes a few days to become used to your new tasks and to make some friends at your new workplace.

That is not the case for everyone though, and there are people who suffer from real feelings of anxiety when placed into situations that are foreign to them. That can even be something as simple as attending a friendly social gathering, especially when there are people in attendance that they have never met. This is not always just a case of being shy and there are actually people who suffer from social anxiety disorders that can really be crippling and prevent them from living the life that most of us take for granted.

If you are one of those who suffer from a social anxiety disorder, it doesn’t have to be a jail sentence that confines you to your own home. There are a number of different ways where you can get your disorder under control and take your life back.


This photo is copyright (c) 2013 and made available under wikimedia commons license1) If your anxiety falls on the extreme side, then you should really consider talking to a professional therapist. They can get to the heart of your problems and help you get on the road to recovery. The most common technique that they use to do so is known as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.


k_vohsen2) You can also choose to help yourself overcome your issues by making a list of the situations that give you the highest level of anxiety. Your goal should then be to tackle them all head-on, starting with the one that is least overwhelming. That may be something like going to a social event with co-workers. Once you go and get through the evening, realizing there was nothing to fear, you can check that off your list and move onto the next. This process will allow you to overcome all those situations in your own time, helping you to realize that the anxiety you felt was totally unwarranted.


This photo is copyright (c) 2013 http://www.sxc.hu/profile/rubenshito and made available under royalty free license 3) The anxiety that you feel leading up to a particular situation is usually your mind playing some tricks with you. In the time leading up to the event that is giving you fits, you should talk yourself through the scenarios that your mind is telling you might occur. When you talk them out rationally, you will always find that things you think might happen are actually incredibly unlikely to ever occur.


This photo is copyright (c) 2013 http://www.sxc.hu/profile/zoofytheji and made available under royalty free license 4) When anxiety strikes, it can bring on a bout of sweating, shaking, and feelings of nausea that make the situation seem ten times as bad. The more out of control you become, the more your anxiety level rises until you are at the point where you have become completely incapable of any rational thought. Instead of letting your nerves take control of you, get the upper hand on them by practicing relaxation techniques. You might think about learning some simple deep breathing exercises or even taking it a step further and seeing how meditation can really bring you a great deal of peace.


This photo is copyright (c) 2013 http://www.sxc.hu/profile/raichinqer and made available under royalty free license 5) Anxiety is a purely personal disorder that can make you make the worst of every little situation. That can even mean interpreting a comment made in an off-hand manner as being something entirely different than what was intended. Instead of taking every single thing to the negative extreme, try to look for a little silver lining in an attempt to accentuate the positive. For example, if that social gathering with co-workers is causing you stress, don’t focus on the bad things that will likely never happen, choosing instead to focus on the positive of spending time with a co-worker that you really like.


There are many ways to overcome your social anxiety and you can even do so in the comfort of your own home if that seems a little more appealing. There are plenty of resources online to help you with your issues, as well as a number of fantastic books on the subject. Don’t spend your life stressing about situations that are well within your control, and instead take positive steps to free yourself socially.

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